How being a boss at home helped me be a boss in the office

How being a boss at home helped me be a boss in the officeHow being a boss at home helped me be a boss in the officeWith Mothers Day around the corner, I realized there is a strong connection between motherhood and my other job not the one of mom to teenage boys, but my work as a leadership consultant, thought-leader, and executive coach. So, whether its being the boss of yur children or a business leader, there is typically a paradigm shift required.Our children and leaders need enough room to successfully do their new job, step into their new accountabilities, build new skills, including messing up, learning and growing but ultimately a good boss supports, teaches, and coaches to ensure success. We should expect challenges and setbacks, as well as surprise and delight when they show us what theyre truly capable of.When I work with business leaders to prepare for and take on bigger jobs, we often spend time understanding (and avoiding) the typical leadership transition traps. In bu siness, here are some of the classic things that trip up leadersThey fail to trust and empower the leaders who work for them (they feel they can do it better or they arent sure of capabilities, so they keep it for themselves)They hold on too tight to what they did before and how they did it (even though the new job requires something very different from them)They arent sure how to create value in their new role if they arent doing the work anymora, they arent sure how to spend their timeIn truth, for many of us, these are the exact same things that trip us up as parents. As our kids get older they force us to adjust our role and purpose. They insist on more independence, freedom, and autonomy and for the most part, they are highly capable. As parents, we are now leading leaders and just like leaders in business, it requires an adjustment. In the context of work, this seems obvious, yet as parents, this transition can be so much harder and less apparent.Ladders is now on SmartNewsDo wnload the SmartNews app and add the Ladders channel to read the latest career news and advice wherever you go.Most days, I feel like Im a much better leadership consultant than mother, but I do know there are some extremely important leadership learnings Ive faced as a mother that I apply to my consulting. In the spirit of Mothers Day, I plan to renew my commitment to not only being the best mother and leader of little leaders I can be but also to the executives I coach.Here are 10 leadership traits Ive adapted from motherhood to businessIf you can and should be doing it, Im not doing it for you when I do it for you Im holding you backIts okay for you to have setbacks and make mistakes when you do, the only thing I expect from you is that you openly and honestly explore why it happened, think about what you could have done differently, and make the shifts necessary to avoid the same mistakeYoure smarter and more capable than both of us even know I will help you explore what your e best at and help create opportunities for you to learn, grow, and be your best your potential to achieve greatness is unlimitedI will be clear about my expectations and then trust you to live up to them I know you want to do the right thing (even though sometimes you wont see 2)When you tell me youve got it covered I will give you the space to follow-through I wont ask you ten times if youve done it yet (see 4)Im here to help you expand your self-awareness, learn what youre capable of, help you see your own potential, and build your confidence I realize this wont happen without honesty, candor, transparency, and positive intentI care about your opinion I want to hear your views and understand how you think about things when Im asking you questions it is because I care and want to learn more about you, not to interrogate and fault findI will work to create positive energy and optimism I know youll be your best if thats what our relationship feels likeI will recognize and cele brate your milestones, successes, and accomplishments small and largeIm on your team, always you never have to question my intentions or commitment to youThe truly great business leaders I know exemplify the value that true leaders dont create followers, they create more leaders. As parents, we have one true purpose prepare our children to go out into the world independently and responsibly, with confidence and kindness, to do great things. Happy Mothers Day weve got this, MomsAbby Curnow-Chavez is a mother, leadership development expert, and co-founder of the Trispective Group. She is the co-author of The Loyalist Team How Trust, Candor, and Authenticity Create Great Organizations. For more information, or to take a free team snapshot assessment, please visit, www.trispectivegroup.com.